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Date: Fri, 27 Jan 2017 12:45:09 +1300
From: Kent Fredric <kentnl@gentoo.org>
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Subject: Re: [gentoo-project] RFC: GLEP - Require Projects to report to
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On Thu, 26 Jan 2017 10:45:50 -0500
"William L. Thomson Jr." <wlt-ml@o-sinc.com> wrote:

> On Thursday, January 26, 2017 2:57:12 PM EST Kent Fredric wrote:
> > On Sat, 21 Jan 2017 12:03:02 -0500
> >=20
> > "William L. Thomson Jr." <wlt-ml@o-sinc.com> wrote: =20
>  [...] =20
> >=20
> > That may be how you see it. =20
>=20
> No that is fact, given how people keep discussing and focusing on punishm=
ent.
> It clearly shows a mindset and the atmosphere. Not a friendly one!

That's why I'm *only* getting that impression around you. Right.

The reality with human communication, is if people collectively interpret y=
ou incorrectly,
that's something only you can rectify.=20

It sucks to have people misunderstand you, but you don't get to say
"no, I'm not giving this perception, you're just imagining it"

Because you are giving that perception. It becomes a question of *why* you'=
re giving that perception
and what you can do to rectify that.

Granted, when a perception is misunderstood, you can then subsequently, wit=
h care, correct that.

But as to how initial misperceptions are created, that's an exercise that r=
equires your investment.

Nobody else can do it for you.

Related concept presented comically by Louis CK: https://www.youtube.com/wa=
tch?v=3D18y6vteoaQY&t=3D110

> > But for me, I don't really have that problem in general, and I only see=
m to
> > bump into it when dealing with these horrible mailinglists of rivers of
> > emails that never end, when I'd rather STFU&WSC =20
>=20
> Please I tend to be more active than most speaking
> https://github.com/wltjr

I don't get what you're trying to say here. Its not a dick measuring contes=
t. If you're meaning to
say you do more stuff than I do, and how when I say I'd rather STFU&WSC, th=
at I'm just being rhetorical
about that, allow me:=20

https://github.com/kentfredric

I don't know which metrics you're specifically suggesting I see, but I thin=
k at least one of those
numbers are comparable. But that's besides the point.

I find lengthy mailinglist discussions exhausting and there's often very ve=
ry little return on investment,
and usually nothing becomes of any of it, so its just stupid conflict witho=
ut utility. Great.

The only reason I involve myself in the first place is some conflicted delu=
ded side effect of
empathy kicking in. Because somehow, I feel that maybe I can contribute som=
ething that will make
a bad situation better. Sometimes my patience helps me here, but usually it=
 just makes me
incredibly depressed about humanity in general.

Instead, I took what I could from this, and pretty much side stepped the ne=
ed for any such formalised proposal
by just doing something that could potentially be construed to be useful.

I just simply externalised my mental work queue to somewhere on the wiki so=
 people could see it if they cared,
with no requirements of any kind.

https://wiki.gentoo.org/wiki/User:Kentnl/TODO

Somebody could scrape this, and aggregate it, I don't know, I don't care. I=
ts useful to me as-is, and it could be
useful to somebody else. The problem is solved and I can go do something el=
se.

And within hours, somebody noticed and copied me:=20

https://wiki.gentoo.org/wiki/User:Leio/TODO

Self-organising systems are great.

>=20
> > And for me, it very much *is* what you're writing that gives me these v=
ibes. =20
>=20
> You do not know me, and you are reading things I did not write. Worrying =
about=20
> things I am not even discussing. None of that comes from me....
>=20
> > I don't pretend to be able to explain how that is, but it is true.
> >=20
> > I don't know how to resolve it either, but I'm just generally trying to
> > think to myself "Should I actually respond, or should I just shut my mo=
uth
> > and do something else lest I make this fire worse" =20
>=20
> I see allot of people talking who became developers years after I was one=
. I=20
> do not see any respect for those that came before. No respect for wisdom=
=20
> gained over a decade, etc.
>=20
> I routinely will google Gentoo New Developer, with a persons name. Rarely=
 am I=20
> talking to anyone from say before 2010. Most have become developers since=
 and=20
> have a very different perspective.

There is some kind of respect for people over time, but it plateaus quickly=
, and beyond
that, everyone are just as mortal and fallible as I am, and they need to pr=
ove themselves.

And constantly.

People do change, and sometimes they change for the worse, so being experie=
nced and older
is not in itself an extended license of authority.

One can still respect and listen to those views, but are still entitled to =
reject them.

I really wish I'd gotten paid for all the times I'd had to babysit people o=
lder than me
when they were throwing their toys out of the proverbial cot like children.


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